Posts by Coffee House Girl

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Has anyone tried tactics from"Captives of a Concept"?

by Coffee House Girl in

just read don cameron's book...which was very en-light-ening (sorry for the "new light" pun)....and i agree with many of cameron's points about how to reason with a jw but i am curious..... have any of you out there in jwn land ever tried to have a witness come to your door, pretend to have a bible study & get the jw in a "teacher" setting where they have to research for you the history of jw's in the time of 1919????.

were you successful?

did it not work out?.

Coffee House Girl

Just read Don Cameron's book...which was very en-light-ening (sorry for the "new light" pun)....and I agree with many of Cameron's points about how to reason with a JW but I am curious....

Have any of you out there in JWN land ever tried to have a witness come to your door, pretend to have a bible study & get the JW in a "teacher" setting where they have to research for you the history of JW's in the time of 1919????

Were you successful? Did it not work out?

I am also curious if these tactics work on your JW family members (I can see where you can play dumb with a dub when they don't know you, but family is different)

Thanks for any feedback!!

CHG

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Hi everyone. Wanted to officially intro myself. Well at least give you: In the Beginning...

by AK MCGRATH in

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well, i'm going to break this up, because if anyone has read any of my posts, you know i can be long-winded.

yep, i'm the person that can leave a minute or two message on a v.m.. i have been on this board for a month or two and wanted to make sure i'd be sticking around before i intro'd myself, so here i am.

grab your favorite beverage, it's gonna be a long one.. in the beginning.... i learned of the "truth" through a co-worker.

Coffee House Girl

Welcome! You write in a way that is easy to read....I am sorry for what you went through, being a born-in JW I guess I was used to critisizm as "loving counsel" ...but there did come a time when I was blacklisted for my "attitude" and my "un-scriptural" divorce and my choice of "bad associates" and I was pushed into a corner and couldn't take it anymore

you are in good company and I am glad you are out!

keep posting

CHG

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My Favorite snowboard pictures i took this season! Vote and comment which one is the best!

by Snowboarder in

my favorite snowboard pictures i took this season!

vote and comment which one is the best!

it's all from vancouver, grouse mt or cypress!

Coffee House Girl

Awesome pics Snowboarder, you have a good eye (maybe backup career in photography???)

CHG

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2011 "Let God's Kingdom Come!" District Convention Program

by witnessofjesus in

9:30 song no.

10:50 song no.

12:10 song no.

Coffee House Girl

Yawn.....I can fall asleep in the comfort of my own bed & not propped up in an uncomfortable stadium chair pretending to take notes and nodding off, startled awake by thunderous applause because of a borring speaker asking the audience if we are so thankful to be living in a spiritual paradise...

thanks for the update though, I look forward to reading feedback from the poor people who do sacrifice three days for that hell

CHG

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help appreciated...any success or failures at truly conscious efforts to make new friends after a life in jwland? As a very social person i still only seem to have ex-dubs as my new friends...

by oompa in

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friends

as a jw...at least if you were social...you could walk into about any hall and find other social jw's you could become friends with...yes they are conditional...perhaps more so than other friends, but i did have some great friends there and i still miss them.

since my wake up....then departure....now df status....i realize that i have had only seven or so real friends and five were found here..... five are fairly local, one is far away, and one is an old high school friend i have reconnected with (lives a thousand miles away).....and i have met some nice people through these friends but they are more aquaintances than close friends.

the bar scene did not really get me anywhere with guys or girls...and i tried meetup.com but as of yet have not connected with anyone....so what worked for you?

Coffee House Girl

I can really relate oopma, it has almost been two years now out- being raised a JW made me very socially awkward...thus starting all over is really hard for me.

I have connected on fb with some ex-JWs but we dont go out or anything, this site is excellent for me to get things off my chest and have people understand where I am coming from (but we are all just little avatars on a computer)

College is a way for me to talk with others, but when the simester is over...everyone scatters and I don't seem to pick up any friends that way

I am signed up to volunteer at a local art museum, I hope that will be a lead to meet people

I have coffee shop guy who is a real friend but other than that all I converse with is co-workers (and none of my past coworkers hang out socially after work hours)but.....

I moved to a new town where no one knows coffee house guy or myself and I just started a new job today. I am looking forward to a fresh start with people who know nothing about my past...maybe as a new person I can become someone who behaves more normally :)

I think when I meet someone that I could connect with as a friend I will just have to muster up the courage to ask if they want to meet me for coffee or something (but I feel wierd like I am asking them on a date or something)...I suppose we have to just grow a pair and put ourselves out there- make the first move and ask "do you wanna be my friend?"

best of luck!

CHG

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An Intro and apology.

by Slidin Fast in

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friends

i have been an avid reader on this site for a few years and have weighed in on a few topics and introduced a few more without introducing myself.

for this i apologise.

the main reason for my reticence is that being a second generation born in but having been baptised in the 50s i will find it difficult to make an introduction without giving the game away.

Coffee House Girl

Welcome and thanks for telling us your story (I was also too afraid to post too many personal details thinking I would be instantly caught and elders would be knocking down my door as I was typing my first thread here).....as many here have already said,

take it slow and easy (especially if you have family "in" the org still), it is clear that you love your family and I hope you can find a way out-

I knew I would loose most of my family and I mentally prepared for that eventuality & all I am hanging on to still is keeping my uber JW mom- thus I keep a lot of my real life secret from her- I understand it is hard so I wish you the best and hope you keep posting!

CHG

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Most Overblown Examples Used at Assemblies

by What Now? in

at a recent assembly, there was a talk highlighting the dangers of higher education.

the brother used an example of a young girl who went to university, began going to bars, and ended up getting drugged and gang raped - as if this happens to every young jw who chooses to get higher education.. .

what ridiculous examples have you heard used at meetings or assemblies?.

Coffee House Girl

The last few years that I went to Dist conventions and circuit assemblies it just seemed to me that I kept hearing different versions of the same story:

there was always a kid that looked 13-16yrs old and told how they started home schooling so that they could full time pioneer and turned down a scholarship,

then there was always an adult MS or Elder who quit his full time job to full time pioneer and moved his family of five kids and wife and dog into a smaller appartment so they could "simplify" their lives,

then there was always an aged sister who was still full time pioneering and who has done so for sixty years or so and still "loves" it

.....it got to be very uninspiring and drol

CHG

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My Experience as JW

by umadevi in

hello, i am new to this site and it is comforting to know that i am not the only one that has problem with wts.

i'm 36 and single parent with 8 year old son.

i work full time from 8am to 5pm in order to support both of us.

Coffee House Girl

Welcome! You are amongst people who really do understand what you are saying & have heard it all before- there may still be grants available for moms to go back to school, get a college degree, and stop struggling with low paying full time jobs- just think about it! you are opening yourself up for real freedom to take back control of your life-

keep reading with an open mind & I wish you the best!

CHG

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Im now out...

by MrFreeze in

despite the fact that i officially left the jws last october i still had a big issue to deal with.

i was still living at home.

many of you are aware of the kind of pressure that parents can put on you.

Coffee House Girl

Yay!!! I'm giving you a standing ovation

EEEK!- get yourself a nice house cat for the mice....(I live in an old victorian style house turned into appartments, so mice is part of it I'm afraid)

CHG

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Unemployment Rates For College v. High School

by skeeter1 in

young people with only high school diplomas or less are hardest hit by unemploymentpublished: friday, april 22, 2011, 1:46 pm ap graphiconly about a third of young people with a high school education or less are working full time.

ie6 hack ie6 hack young people who try to find work straight out of high school aren't faring well in today's tough economy.. .

four in 10 of those surveyed whose education stopped at high school are unemployed.

Coffee House Girl

Thanks for the reaffirmation that college is the right decision for me ...I am hoping that someday when I graduate those who are in charge of hiring can appreciate an older graduate as mature and one who took her education very seriously

CHG